Today's Love Dare message was exactly what I've been failing to do. I will quote just a few paragraphs (seriously, if you're not doing this Dare, I encourage you to! It's so wonderful!)
If someone were to ask you, “Why do you love your wife?” or “Why do you love your husband?” – what would you say?
Most men would mention their wife’s beauty, her sense of humor, her kindness, her inner strength. They might talk about her cooking, her knack for decorating, or what a good mother she is.
Women would probably say something about their husband’s good looks or his personality. They’d commend him for his steadiness and consistent character. They’d say they love him because he’s always there for them. He’s generous. He’s helpful.
But what if over the course of years, your wife or husband stopped being every one of those things. Would you still love them? Based on your answers above, the only logical response would be “no.” If your reasons for loving your spouse all have something to do with his or her qualities – and then those same qualities suddenly or gradually disappear – your basis for love is over.
The only way love can last a lifetime is if it’s unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.
So here it's backing up what I said earlier about love having to be a choice, not a feeling. But it takes it even further! You have to choose to love someone not because of the things they do or the way they are, but choose to love them unconditionally. No matter what. Even if he is rude, even if he doesn't do anything while I'm at work, even if he gains 100 lbs and lies in bed all day, my love has to be unconditional.
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